Many men have a hard time going up to and hitting on women because men have a misconception that women hate being hit on. This is a myth that women have perpetuated and a myth that men have been completely duped into. Belief in this false myth causes most men to hate and fear approaching and hitting on women. He'll think, "Women hate being hit on by men so if I go up to her, she'll think I'm a creep..."
Most women will claim they don't really like it or that it annoys them but the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can't get enough of it. It is a good, quick stroke for their ego and self esteem. Because all women want to feel attractive and desirable, a random stranger approaching them and hitting on them confirms that they are in fact desirable.
A lot of women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and uncertainty about their attractiveness factor. The act of men hitting on them serves to get rid of those uncertainties and therefore corroborate their attractiveness.
If you have ever overheard women talking about how they hate being hit on or a female friend confessed to you how annoying it is, you've just witnessed the female psychology at work. Even though they secretly love it, they cannot explicitly admit to this. They have to hide it and pretend to dislike it because the female social dynamic demands it.
For women (and men to some degree), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They need to protect this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. They are in danger of being branded as sluts or attention-mongers if they freely confess to enjoy being hit on. Labels such as these will lower their social value and therefore needs to be prevented at all costs.
Furthermore, if women hated attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead business instead of the $170 billion dollar industry it is. They would wear shapeless T-shirts and motel curtains, and the entire beauty business would go bankrupt. There are those guys, though, that have been fooled into believing another lie. That women don't dress up for guys, they dress up for other women.
There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complicated social group dynamics that only sociologists can decipher. However, this means nothing in the greater scheme of attracting women because even if this is true, ultimately, this means women are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what purpose? Besides the psychological ego gratification type explanations, ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.
However, there is a big catch to this. Women love being hit on by genuine men hitting on them properly. If you think you can go up to any woman and say garbage pickup lines or rude, condescending sexual innuendos like "I like your butt" and think that they will love it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a chump that no woman will accept. Therefore, you must learn the proper way to hit on women and the proper things to say.
Recognize, know, and believe that women want and enjoy being hit on. They want you to come up to them and speak to them, assuming you look presentable and you do it appropriately. Demolish the fake dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you're a creep if you hit on them. By changing this frame of mind, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.
Most women will claim they don't really like it or that it annoys them but the truth is, women love being hit on. They love it and can't get enough of it. It is a good, quick stroke for their ego and self esteem. Because all women want to feel attractive and desirable, a random stranger approaching them and hitting on them confirms that they are in fact desirable.
A lot of women, no matter how hot they are, will have some level of self consciousness and uncertainty about their attractiveness factor. The act of men hitting on them serves to get rid of those uncertainties and therefore corroborate their attractiveness.
If you have ever overheard women talking about how they hate being hit on or a female friend confessed to you how annoying it is, you've just witnessed the female psychology at work. Even though they secretly love it, they cannot explicitly admit to this. They have to hide it and pretend to dislike it because the female social dynamic demands it.
For women (and men to some degree), their perceived social status is of the utmost importance. They need to protect this social status within their group dynamic at all costs. They are in danger of being branded as sluts or attention-mongers if they freely confess to enjoy being hit on. Labels such as these will lower their social value and therefore needs to be prevented at all costs.
Furthermore, if women hated attention and being hit on, makeup would be a dead business instead of the $170 billion dollar industry it is. They would wear shapeless T-shirts and motel curtains, and the entire beauty business would go bankrupt. There are those guys, though, that have been fooled into believing another lie. That women don't dress up for guys, they dress up for other women.
There is some truth to this and it has to do with some kind of complicated social group dynamics that only sociologists can decipher. However, this means nothing in the greater scheme of attracting women because even if this is true, ultimately, this means women are competing with each other for male attention. They dress up for other women so that they can look better than them or outdo them, but for what purpose? Besides the psychological ego gratification type explanations, ultimately, they do this to compete for male validation and male attention.
However, there is a big catch to this. Women love being hit on by genuine men hitting on them properly. If you think you can go up to any woman and say garbage pickup lines or rude, condescending sexual innuendos like "I like your butt" and think that they will love it, you are retarded. This is not hitting on women, this is being a chump that no woman will accept. Therefore, you must learn the proper way to hit on women and the proper things to say.
Recognize, know, and believe that women want and enjoy being hit on. They want you to come up to them and speak to them, assuming you look presentable and you do it appropriately. Demolish the fake dogma in your mind that thinks that women will think you're a creep if you hit on them. By changing this frame of mind, you are halfway to success to hitting on women.
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