duminică, 16 martie 2014

Do You Need Relationship Help For Your Marriage?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Very few marriages are perfect, in fact, at one time or another, most marriages require some sort of relationship help. A marriage without a good relationship has little hope of lasting a lifetime. Should it last, the partners aren't usually happy or content and that is when trouble starts.

The difference between a marriage and a relationship is that when people marry, they form a bond in matrimony and in the eyes of the law and man they are united until death (or divorce) do they part.

A relationship is meaningful feelings formed following the marriage. They continue to deepen and grow for as long as a marriage is maintained. Actually the relationship should start well in advance of the wedding vows.

If you're hearing cues from others that you need help, your marriage likely does. For instance, do you go to functions without your spouse? If so, how often? Do you make excuses for him or her? Are they true reasons or are you just being polite?

When you are together, you'll be criticizing or complaining about little things that are actually pretty irrelevant. You'll go to one extreme or the other and sit together, but rarely talk, Even if someone does speak, it's not really that interesting to the other person.

Other warning signs of a troubled relationship may be a big lack of interest when it comes to being intimate. You are both attractive and young, but there just isn't any spark anymore. At the same time, you may fantasize about other people.

You no longer feel the affection and there are few hugs, no kisses and rarely are the three magic words of 'I love you' spoken. Humans require touch and warmth to feel like they are valued. Without touch, there is a serious issue going on.

Jealousy is a huge turn off to the other partner when carried to the extreme. The jealous person will withdraw and the other person will feel as if the one that is jealous is being unfaithful. The other partner will then hold back as they feel cheated upon. It's a vicious circle that is hard to break.

Make sure you don't exaggerate the situation and do establish ground rules that both of you must follow. If jealousy becomes a growing and continuous problem, it is time to seek help. The jealousy needs to be curtailed in order for intimacy to be back in your relationship.

Debt is another culprit that is responsible for relationship issues. Not having money can be serious. If one partner overspends constantly, it can cause a huge rift in the relationship.

When one partner spends more than the other partner the marriage is drowning in bills. The relationship then begins to sink and debt drains the life blood from the relationship.

All marriages run into problems at some time or another. Disagreements and conflicts are going to occur. They are to be expected. However, from time to time, just make sure you take a look at your relationship to make sure you and your spouse are happy with where you are. If any adjustments need to be made, just make them and keep moving forward.




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